Would you rather be with someone you really love, but have to wait 10 years, or would you rather be with someone you kind of love but could be with instantly?
If you couldn't be with the one you love, would you want to be with anyone at all?
I have to contest your usage of the word 'love' entirely. But I'll leave it at that because I'm sure you understand the distinction I'm trying to draw.
I'd be more inclined to wait. I waited about nine months for the one relationship I've ever been in (with no assurance of anything).
But I also find emotions (such as love in the sense you used it here) to be rather mutable.
Really, it all comes down to asking God what his plans are, and responding to what you hear from him.
I feel like Jacob waited 14 years to be with the girl he loved--and he had to go through 7 years of being with a girl he didn't love to get there. And the Bible says that the first 7 years seemed only like a few days to him, because of the love he had for Rachel (cf. Genesis 29).
My dad once told me that "true" love--as opposed to emotions alone or infatuation--is selfless, and wants only what is best for the other person. If you truly loved someone, and you knew that the best thing for them was to never see you again, you would leave them forever because it was what was best for them. Pretty crazy stuff.
But, though it all you just have to remember that God is in control. As a wise man (see the ninja above) once told me: "We believe in arranged marriage--just not human parents doing the arranging."
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I have to contest your usage of the word 'love' entirely. But I'll leave it at that because I'm sure you understand the distinction I'm trying to draw.
I'd be more inclined to wait. I waited about nine months for the one relationship I've ever been in (with no assurance of anything).
But I also find emotions (such as love in the sense you used it here) to be rather mutable.
Really, it all comes down to asking God what his plans are, and responding to what you hear from him.
I feel like Jacob waited 14 years to be with the girl he loved--and he had to go through 7 years of being with a girl he didn't love to get there. And the Bible says that the first 7 years seemed only like a few days to him, because of the love he had for Rachel (cf. Genesis 29).
My dad once told me that "true" love--as opposed to emotions alone or infatuation--is selfless, and wants only what is best for the other person. If you truly loved someone, and you knew that the best thing for them was to never see you again, you would leave them forever because it was what was best for them. Pretty crazy stuff.
But, though it all you just have to remember that God is in control. As a wise man (see the ninja above) once told me: "We believe in arranged marriage--just not human parents doing the arranging."
AJ
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